This entry is going to be very introspective, but still pretty random like usual. Today I was reading about self-deception and real intimacy. Then, I came across this quote that was said to answer the question of what Atheists believe in if they don’t believe in God or a higher power:
"With what do I maintain a conscious contact, and from where do I seek comfort? Today I find comfort in knowing that I am living a healthy, good, clean life and that I am not harming others or myself. I can maintain a conscious contact by holding love close to my heart. I seek to do the right thing for the RIGHT reason.”
Then I started thinking about what I think is right and what I do believe in. Here's some random musings that I came up with. So, in no particular order:
-I don’t believe in giving someone a gift that they don’t deserve. It takes away from the value of the gift, thus wasting it.
-I have an Autistic twin brother named Michael who I respect and admire. His outlook on life and his own personal future could inspire many. He’s on the “high-functioning” end of the Autistic Spectrum. I think that is the hardest type of disorder to have because he realizes that he’s different and he always will be, yet he doesn’t let that stop him from having dreams and knowing what he is good at.
-I don't believe in girls making the first move, at all. I think that it would be nice if it didn’t matter who initiated contact between a man and a woman, but evolution says that just can’t be so.
-After trying to figure out what I want right now in my life, I FINALLY came to the conclusion recently that I don't know yet what I'm looking for. I probably won't know exactly what I want until I actually find it. Until then, everyday is a lesson and everyday I come closer to finding out what's best for me.
-I'm very opinionated but open-mindedness is something I strive for. If you don’t have respect for the opinions of other people, then you don’t have respect for others and you don’t deserve respect yourself. There's usually more than one right way and we can't learn from each other unless we're willing to listen.
-I find myself being most attracted to nerdy-ish smart guys who I feel that I can learn something from, as long as I feel that they respect my intelligence as well and they aren't too ego-centered, which is different than having a high self-esteem. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a high self-esteem as long as you don't also have a superiority complex and/or a sense of entitlement.
-I think I'm really smart, and I feel very fortunate because of that. That doesn't mean I'm smarter than anyone else, it just means that I really appreciate my own unique type of intelligence. I don't think that intelligence is as quantifiable as many people believe it is.
-I look for the best in people and there isn't anyone I dislike, everyone has a story worth hearing. This outlook makes life and relationships tons easier in every way.
-I believe that optimism is a choice not a condition, and it's usually the best one. You attract more bees with honey. :)
-It's never Ok to yell at someone unless their life is in danger. Mature people with self-controll never have to yell to make a point.
-I'm not better than you, and you're not better than me. You can't quantify the worth of a person, no matter how much you think you can and no matter how much better it makes you feel about yourself. We're all just un-perfect humans with the same cells and the same organs trying to survive in the best way that we know how.
-No one is "stupid", there are just different types of intelligence. You may not know how to read, but I’m sure that there are things in life you’ve mastered that I may never be able to fully understand. We're all smart in different ways, and we rely on eachother based on our individual strong suites.
-Selfish people who are incapable of true empathy are the only people that I think warrant pity.
-I don’t believe in excuses. It’s human nature to try to use them, but every time you do you’re doing yourself a disservice. If you do something wrong and you blame it on something/someone besides yourself, you’re taking away your power to fix it and you're missing an opportunity to better yourself.
-I think that the older you get the more you realize how dumb it is to lie. Atleast that's been my experience. Now, I try to go out of my way to tell the truth all of the time. I’m not saying that I never lie, but I believe in the power of telling the truth. People are smart and they usually know when they’re being lied to. Respect them and respect yourself by telling the truth. No one expects you to be perfect all of the time. The truth really does set you free, as corny and cliche as that statement may be.
-“Pain will occur, but suffering is a choice.” This is true, but a lot of people sell themselves short when it comes their belief in their ability to controll their emotions and rationally think before they act. Being able to think and not act exclusively on our emotions is one of the things that separates humans from animals. That's why I speak out against violence, because as humans we're suposed to have evolved past that.
-No matter how bad things seem today, it could always be a lot worse. No matter how bad things are going, it’s probably going to get better, and it’s probably going to get better soon. When times get tough, force yourself to look at the bigger picture and find something to be happy about.
-I believe in the power of positive thinking. When I’m at work and my boss is pushing my buttons and making me angry, I consciously control my thoughts and I don’t allow myself to get mad or take anything personally. I remind myself that she’s very stressed out incapable of separating her emotions from her actions. Negative thoughts about her will only be toxic to my prosperity in the long run, no matter how warranted they may be.
- Don't say bad things about people when they're aren't there. It's cowardly, they're going to find out, and everyone within ear-shot will lose trust and respect for you. Bite your tongue when you want to say something bad about someone, especially at work.
-Today I learned that “Addiction is a journey away from the truth and into emotional blindness.”, “Dependency of any kind unavoidably destroys relationships and inhibits them from being healthy."
-“We notice intimacy, we don’t produce it. Love is not a happening, it is a process.”
-“There is no recovery without transformation, there is no transformation without recovery.”