“If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.”
-- Albert Einstein
"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest."
-- Confucius
"There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self."
-- Hindu Proverb
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough."
-- Franklin D. Roosevelt
"Am I not destroying my enemies, when I make friends of them?"
-- Abraham Lincoln
"Capital is only the fruit of labor, and could never have existed if labor had not first existed. Labor is the superior of capital."
-- Abraham Lincoln
"I am a firm believer in the people. If given the truth, they can be depended upon to meet any national crisis. The great point is the bring them the real facts."
-- Abraham Lincoln
"As Lincoln said to a nation far more divided than ours, '...we are not enemies, but friends.' Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection."
-- Barack Obama
7 Tips for Keeping Facebook Friends
7 Tips for Keeping Facebook Friends
How to not annoy people and keep your Facebook friends, by yours truly.
(It's ok for me to say these things because I'm guilty of most of them. LOL)
1. Don't like pictures of kittens to prove you love Jesus:
Jesus doesn't have Facebook. And even if he did, I really don't think he'd be using it to monitor cat pictures. It's a trap. Don't fall for that BS. Jesus reaps no financial benefit from your digital display of affection, but the Korean teenager that created the page to farm for likes and sell it, will. Not cool. Definitely not what Jesus would do if he really had Facebook.
2. Don't list everything you do:
It's not interesting. The quality of your sleep last night, the details of your shower, the temperature of your fruit loops= not important. If you feel a compulsion for such banality, then do us a favor. Go to the privacy settings and set that shit to "Only Me". That way it's on your timeline; just in case you forget your cheese type at Chipotle, AND no one hates your guts. It's win-win. On behalf of every single one of your Facebook friends, thank you.
3. Don't tell us when your baby takes a poo:
Baby's are great. Cute baby pics make me smile. However, there are some things about your experience as the parent of a young child that aren't meant for public consumption. You need to do all of social media kind a solid and praxtice self-censoring. I understand that these are special moments that are worth being remembered. Change your privacy settings to where only family and close friends can see the stinky stuff. It's the right thing to do.
4. Don't put anyone on blast in your Facebook status:
Your Facebook profile is not a tool of war so don't even try it. The classic saying from childhood still reigns true. What Sally says about Susie says more about Sally than it says about Susie. You may think you look clever or whatever, but talking junk in a Facebook post really only exposes you as a hater with no respect for boundaries.
5. Don't identify yourself with anything other that your first and last name:
You are not in the witness protection program, we are not on AIM anymore, you don't get a screen name. Your name is your name. Its 2013 it's a Facebook profile. You can be as coy as you want but people will still find you. Not using your real name on Facebook doesn't mean that your sister-in law hasn't already seen the pictures of you riding that bull in your tankini.
6. Don't incriminate yourself on Instagram:
We all have our moments. Just don't post a pic of yourself commiting a felony with a sepia filter and blurred purple edges. It's awkward. Keep your skeletons in the closet and your law breaking to yourself and off your timeline. hidden. Don't post pictures of yourself being foolish on the internet. Maybe it's just me, but I have no desire to have my grandma look over my shoulder and see your hot pink drawers. Its just not right. The world is small and embarrassing stuff travels fastest.
7. Don't post sad crap:
Of any kind. No one logs into Facebook for that. What's the point? Spreading sadness? It's like, I'm living my life, sitting on a bench, sipping diet mountain dew and, BAM! You throw a graphic pic of a half dead puppy in my face. That's not right. There's no point. Disturbing your Facebook friends won't help the puppy.
Before anyone feels the need to point it out, yes, I do spend a little time on Facebook. LOL
What Grassroots Feels Like
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| Team Obama 2012! |
The second thing was how many people thanked us for doing what we were doing. We talked to a 92 year old southern belle who shared pictures of her late husband, and the best moment of the whole trip, for me, was when we met a 17 year old young man from Mexico.
He told us that he can't vote in November, but he's currently working to attain citizenship. He told us thank you before we left and it was one of the most sincere gratitudes I've ever heard in my life.
So, I guess my entire point of this post today is to say that the people who say the system is too corrupt to ever change and we're just all doomed, you're wrong. Why? Because yes we did. Team Democrats!
Shit You Should Know: Part 2. You're Welcome.
“Him deciding not to be with you isn’t a decision you can talk your way out of. It’s a definitive action, not a democratic one. Nothing you say is going to be news to him, and you have much better things to do with your time.”
“No answer is your answer. Do not give him the chance to reject you again.”
“As you date it’s inevitable that you’ll find your fair share of weirdos and jerks. The only thing in your controll is how long you allow these gentleman to take up space in your life. Life is hard enough without choosing as asshole to share it with.”
“Being lonely and alone sucks, but it is my true belief that being with someone who make you feel shitty or like you’re not good enough is way worse.”
- "Do or do not, there is no try" ~ Yoda, Jedi Master
- "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." ~ Stephen R. Covey
- “Every person is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him" ~ R. W. Emerson
- "We must learn to live together as brothers, or we will perish together as fools." ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
-“You’re only as interesting as the depths of your own interests.”
- "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." ~ Stephen R. Covey
- “Every person is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him" ~ R. W. Emerson
- "We must learn to live together as brothers, or we will perish together as fools." ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
-“You’re only as interesting as the depths of your own interests.”
-“A bit of irreverence is necessary to have any selfesteen at all. Not irreverence for other people, but rather, for what other people think.”
- "Knowing and accepting your weaknesses gives you a confidence that can't be faked."
- "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of the healing."
-"You can choose to see failure as a set back, or you can choose to see it as a starting point."
-" When you try too hard to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one, including yourself."
- "Good timber does not grow with ease, the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees."
-"Character is the discipline to stick to resolutions long after the spirit in which they were made has passed."
- "Your desirability can not be measured by the desires or tastes of any one person, his reactions and tastes are a very individual matter and have more to do with where he is at that point in his life than with your desirability."
- "Some fights aren't worth fighting, even if you win."
- "When faced with 2 choices, simply toss a coin. It works not because it settles the question for you, but because in that brief moment while the coin is in the air you suddenly know what you are hoping for."
- "A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still."
-"Unhealthy relationships are guaranteed to only continue the feelings of inadequacy that spawned them."
My letter to Horry County Council: You Guys Suck.
Dear Councilmen,
I've been thinking. Is it just me, or are the zoning laws in this city a direct contradiction of its mission statement and self described "family" atmosphere?
The Chamber's site:
The Chamber's site:
“From arts and crafts fairs to cultural celebrations. Grab a blanket, and enjoy a soulful concert under the stars. Choose from a wide range of Myrtle Beach events and attractions, including arts and crafts, music, festivals, cultural celebrations, and sport events.”
Funny, they didn't mention the plethora of ways golfers can get their lap dances or the dozens of XXX shops always open for our guest's shopping delight. I get it, I do. Strip clubs can be fun for locals and tourists alike. I respect all who earn their livelihoods in that industry. I hope it always thrives. However, you guys are doing it wrong.
We can't market Myrtle Beach as a “soulful” place to bring kids with “cultural celebrations”, then let the main road in to be lined with racy silhouettes of girls with triple D’s and devil horns. Children shouldn't see that all over a "family" beach. There's a reason Mickey Mouse isn’t famous for his strip clubs. Don't use print adds to project unsullied wholesome images if you don't plan to do everything in your power to make that the reality. Just saying that you care is not enough when you don't act. The jig is up. We're onto you.
Tourism is our cash crop. Your job is to assist growth and make it blossom. Start using your powers for good. Instead of wasting resources keeping people out (cough, helmet laws, cough), try using them to help the citizens who pay your salary. Re-prioritize. We need new laws to better reflect upon this town, it's people, and it's goals. If we do, everyone's bottom-line will improve. With your efforts Myrtle Beach could one day fully capitalize on its exceptional innate beauty that now sits wasted as nothing but a backdrop for unmentionables.
Don't get me wrong. I’m not suggesting closing anything. We just need a face lift. "The Bunny Ranch” shouldn't be a well-known navigational landmark. No wonder we're called the "Red Neck Riviera." We're often seen as a joke by outsiders because, as it stands, we can't even take ourselves seriously. But there is good news, it's not too late. You have Eminent Domain for the purpose of solving these problems. Start using it. End the trashy to spread the classy.
Cordially Yours,
A Very Concerned Constituent
Cordially Yours,
A Very Concerned Constituent
[Disclaimer: I wrote this off the top of my head to be funny, and at the time there was a lot I didn't know about the situation. With what I know now, I applaud Myrtle Beach City Council for their efforts 10 years ago, but it's time to forget the jurisdiction BS and work with the county council to fix this. Just sayin'.]
What Does Your Car Say About Your Personality?
-Convertibles
Convertible Guy
People who drive convertibles are usually very adventurous. Since driving a convertible is known to fairly dangerous, people who drive them are usually pretty big risk takers. If you drive a convertible, there is a good chance that you can also be found bungee jumping, or. skydiving. Usually, people who drive convertibles also like to impress others. This is especially true among guys, who think that any woman will fall for them just because they drive a convertible.
The Sporty Old Dudes
Someone who drives a sports car is probably very similar in personality to someone who drives a convertible. Not only are they probably very adventurous and spontaneous, but they also probably like to impress others. However, one of the big personality traits that can be revealed by driving a sports car is a desire for youth. If the driver is not already young, he or she probably want to feel young again.
Minivan Mom
If you drive a SUV or Minivan, you are automatically looked at as someone who wants to start a family - or someone who already has a family, for that matter. Nowadays, you are also looked at as someone who wants to destroy the environment and use all of the gas at the station. Although people who drive Minivans and SUV's tend to be more family oriented, they also usually like to be in control. Since a SUV is bigger than other cars,and they are known to be better in unpredictable forces, such as bad weather, they offer a sense of safety to anyone who's the care giver type.
The Sassy Sedan Girl
People who drive sedans tend to be very well balanced. Not only do sedans often look fairly attractive, but they offer space, comfort and can be pretty decent on gas. People who drive sedans may be well balanced in almost every aspect of life and their personality may reflect that. Unlike some people, they might not be moody or happy all of the time.
If you drive a SUV or Minivan, you are automatically looked at as someone who wants to start a family - or someone who already has a family, for that matter. Nowadays, you are also looked at as someone who wants to destroy the environment and use all of the gas at the station. Although people who drive Minivans and SUV's tend to be more family oriented, they also usually like to be in control. Since a SUV is bigger than other cars,and they are known to be better in unpredictable forces, such as bad weather, they offer a sense of safety to anyone who's the care giver type.
The Sassy Sedan Girl
People who drive sedans tend to be very well balanced. Not only do sedans often look fairly attractive, but they offer space, comfort and can be pretty decent on gas. People who drive sedans may be well balanced in almost every aspect of life and their personality may reflect that. Unlike some people, they might not be moody or happy all of the time.
Hybrid Owners
People who drive hybrids or other eco-friendly cars are probably good at budgeting. They will also usually have a very realistic view on life. People who drive eco-friendly cars also may care what people think about them. Instead of having people say, "look at that gas hog," they would rather have people say, "look at that Toyota Prius, it's so great that people drive hybrids!"
How I Lost 12 Pounds in 31 Days
How to Lose 12 Pounds in 31 Days:
So, you wanna know how to lose 12 pounds in 31 days? I can probably give some advice on that, because I just did it.
It all started 2 days after Christmas. I decided to make fitness, weight loss, and nutrition priorities in my life. At the time I weighed in at 157.8 pounds, according to the scale that I’ve always had in my bathroom. I calculated my BMI, and it said that I was “Overweight”. I almost had a heart attack. I couldn’t believe it. I thought, no more excuses, this is unacceptable, the time to act is now.
I signed up for a trial week at Gold’s gym. I worked out 5 days that week.
“Eat to live, don’t live to eat.”
When it comes to weight loss, I realized that this is a battle of me , against me. I know what I want for myself, and I know what I have to do to get there, and the only thing that will keep me from getting where I want to be, is me.
Results were very slow to come. For the first two weeks I didn’t lose a single pound.
Here are things that I have done to help contribute to my success:
1) I bought 1 weight loss book, and I checked out 2 from the library. I ready one cover to cove and I’m still working on doing the same with the other 2.
2) No fast-food, at all, under any circumstances.
3) I vowed to do exercises with my Wii fit as many days a week as possible.
4) I joined the gym at Pepper Gedding’s Rec center by my house.
5) I filled my fridge up with nothing but low-fat healthy food and lots of fruits and veggies.
6) I signed up for the weight-loss program/competition at the gym called “Choose-To-Lose”. I meet with my team every Tuesday morning. We weigh in and fill in charts to measure our progress and we swap stories and tips with each other. We are accountable to each other.
7) I got workout DVDs, a weight set for my house, and my grandma bought me a workout contraption that I can do while I watch TV.
8) I keep a log of everything I eat and all of the workouts that I do, and I share it every Tuesday during my group meetings.
9) My roommate and I made a pact to help each other be healthier. We watch out for each other and we take turns cooking healthy dinners.
10) I park far away everywhere I go, on purpose.
-In addition to what’s listed above, I have found that letting everyone know that I’m on a diet has helped me a lot, so has watching shows like “I Used to Be Fat”, “The Biggest Loser”, and “Heavy”.
And lastly, I’m going to end this post by saying that I plan on praising myself publically when I have success. That may annoy some people who might think I’m getting full of myself or showing off or something, but I don’t care. Eating healthy all of the time and working out 5 days a week hasn’t been easy or all that fun for me, and I’m going to celebrate my success whenever and however I feel like it.
So, 1 month down and 2 months left to go until Amiee reaches her goal. Wish me luck!
Professional Sports are Bad for America
Pro sports are the most over rated phenomenon ever.
I’m only impressed by how much dumb people are willing to pay these "professional athletes".
Ok, You can throw a ball well and you run fast.
So?
What does that really say about you other than how rich you are?
I’m only impressed by how much dumb people are willing to pay these "professional athletes".
Ok, You can throw a ball well and you run fast.
So?
What does that really say about you other than how rich you are?
“Hi. I’m Ashley. I’m a huge Lakers’ fan. They’re my life, their national rank affects me deeply.”
Dear Ashley,
No it doesn't.
I hate it when people make it a point to say their favorite team, like it matters. Why would I care about that? One rich guy payed another to cultivate a team of random dudes, who we officially to as "athletes". So what?
“The Red Sox won, they're "my team", so, I'm special, I'm obligated to brag for at least a week.”
No, it's meaningless to everything else existing in reality. When your favorite team wins, you aren't winner by association.
Pro teams offer no benefits to the rest of society. They're a waste of time and they do us a disservice by creating an acceptable excuse for sitting on the couch and eating chips every Sunday.
The Most Annoying Fashion Mistakes
Have you seen someone wearing something stupid that made you mad? I have. I decided to make a list of the worst.I’m writing this with the idea that all of my peers have the same fashion goals as me. Of course, that’s impossible. So, if my goals don’t resemble yours, this doesn't apply to you. You keep rocking that Elmo t-shirt and your animal-print bracelet earrings. You go girl!
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2) Holiday Atire=Holidays Only: -Some folks live in a world where it’s Halloween everyday. They think it’s cool to wear skulls, dye their hair pink, throw on a little school girl skirt with a mesh top, and just live life. While I respect their right to do that, it’s annoying. You look like you got dressed in the dark. Christmas sweaters are cute, on Christmas day, in front of the damn tree while Grandma takes a picture. That’s the only time. Christmas parties have their own rules. December 25th is the only day of the year it’s ok to impersonate Santa or walk around dressed like a candy cane. No exceptions. Easter is on a Sunday in April. Other than that day, if you wear a white cotton dress with random floral-ness that goes past your knees, you’re gonna piss me off. It’s not ok to substitute your Easter dress as an outfit for Broadway unless they’re throwing a surprise egg hunt only you know about. If you wear an Easter dress to Broadway, I will expect you to let me help you find the secret eggs. (I love egg hunts!) |
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3)Pants Make (or Break) an Outfit: -“Just because it zips, doesn’t mean it fits.”-Joan Rivers. Just because you can (miraculously) button those size 4 jeans, doesn’t mean you’re still a size 4. It’s not ok to walk around with your spare tire always chillin’ right there for us to see. It’s awkward. I have no room to talk about muffin top, and I’m no size 4, but I look normal because I buy pants the size I am NOW. You should too. (Please!) Contrary to popular belief, tights are not pants. They kinda resemble pants, so I understand the confusion, but please, (stay with me here) they aren’t the same. Tights were designed to go underneath something. When worn alone, they’re not flattering, unless your body is perfect, which it’s not. Do us all a favor, save us from the camel toe, and put on real pants designed to be pants. Low rise jeans are evil. But you can be proactive with this dilemma. Think ahead. If you’re wearing low rise jeans, a high rise shirt, and normal rise undies, what’s gonna happen? Do the math. You’re going to be showing your ass when you sit down. Get a long undershirt to cover your crack and stop shopping at Hollister. Buy some normal jeans that don’t quit doing their job after you sit down. |
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-If you have kids to feed, your rent is late, you’re illiterate, and cool with breaking a few little laws, then by all means strap on those clear gold fish heals and that little sequin dress. Shake what you’re Momma gave ya and make that money! I can totally respect that. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
However, if you don’t pay rent, you don’t have kids, or you can read, then the outfit described above is not acceptable. Also, no one can walk in those mile high heals without ending the night with them in her hand or waddling home like a duck, in terrible pain the whole way. It’s not worth it. Save yourself the grief and wear shoes you can walk in. You’ll be glad you did.
Some women have amazing bodies. Big boobs, cute ass and a perfect stomach. That’s great. But, just because you’re body looks great, doesn’t mean that everyone in public wants to see it. Just because you can wear 1/3rd of a shirt with a mini-mini skirt and look great, doesn’t mean you should. Have some class, leave a little room to the imagination.
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-Jewelry can be your best friend or your worst enemy. The right necklace makes a good outfit spectacular. The wrong necklace makes you look like an idiot. Don't wear a gaudy necklace that spells out your name, has a fairy sword on it, or looks like you got it out of a candy machine. Butterflies, penguins, and unicorns are not acceptable accessories outside of 3rd grade.
Hoop earrings piss me off. They’re cumbersome, dangers, and ugly. If it’s big enough to fit around your wrist, then by no means should you attach it to your ear! You look like the gypsy hooker from the original version of Aladdin!Why!?!?!?!?!
1 or 2 bracelets are always a great option for sprucing up an out fit. 10 or 15 bracelets and you look like you just robbed the jewelry stand at the flea market. Be a man, pick just one, and put the rest back in the jewelry box. Thank you.
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| 6) Only Dress Like a Teacher if You Teach: -Your early 20’s aren’t the time for turtle necks, bows, blazers, capris, or knit sets. Evern if you’re a parent, you don’t have to dress like you’re 45. That all comes with time, like 20 years. Now is the time for colors and experiments. Grandmas wear beige. Beige is boring. Avoid it at all costs. Brown isn’t much better when worn by itself with no accent color. No one looks good in beige. Except for teachers, who love it for some reason. If you share a fashion philosophy with your grandmother and you’re 25, seek help immediately, before it’s too late. Forget capri pants. Be decisive. Pant’s or shorts? Get off the fence and take a stand. You owe to yourself and to all Americans who are tired of seeing women galavanting around in half pants they like to call capris. There’s a fine line between sophisticated and frumpy, so watch your self. |
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| 7) When Making Bad Decisions, Avoid Permanent Ones: -Your love for dolphins might fade, but that tattoo above your ass crack you got as a 17 year old aspiring Sea World trainer won’t. Passions can change, but Flipper is permanent. Tattooing is a beautiful ancient art form. However, like most things, it's often abused. Tattoos are great, unless they’re dumb tattoos. Do you really need the plot points of a Disney movie permanently etched below your armpit? And come on people, no one is really THAT into butterflies. Think before you ink. Your face is the most unique and beautiful thing about you. Do you really think that sticking a metal bar through any part of it is actually going to make you look better? And why would you pay money and go through pain like that for something that isn’t going to make you better and will cause problems later. Maybe if your face is hideous and you’re trying to distract attention from the scariest parts, other than that, no. The last thing I’m going to say about this topic is that I’d really like to meet someone who got a lower back tattoo (more commonly referred to as a “tramp stamp”) and doesn’t regret it and/or wish they’d gotten it some where else. I’ve never met anyone who fits that description. Enough said. |
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8) Animal Print Isn't Worth the Risk: -For a lot of people every day is a safari. Animal print has its very own niche in the fashion jungle. Love it or hate it, it’s a staple and it’s here to stay. So, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em. Just make sure you do it the right way so you don’t end up looking like a New Jersey housewife circa 1982. When dealing with animal print, ask yourself one question, “how much am I willing to have in common with Snookie from the Jersey Shore?” then go from there. You don’t want to end up looking fierce, not funny. Be a minimalist, pair the print with a neutral, and never get carried away. Don’t walk around looking like today’s version of Cruella Deville. Please. Oh, and adding colors like hot pink and lime green only make a bad idea worse. The only thing worse than walking around looking like a zebra, is waking around looking like a diseased zebra. Take the risk if you must, but don’t say I didn’t warn you. |
How NOT to Use a Dating Site: My Top 10 Tips for Beginners (and Slow Learners)
Below are a few tips that I have written for men and women on how to not come off looking like a pathetic ass hole or a desperate hooker to the people by whom you’d like to be considered adequate enough for potential dating.
Based on my personal first hand experiences, I have a list of my Top 5 Tips for Guys and my Top 5 Tips for Girls. Here it goes:
1) Never Mention Any "Private" Part of Human Anatomy:
-Do not tell me that I have nice boobs or how big you think your penis is. If it's covered by a bathing suite, don't bring it up. This is not adult-friend-finder, and I am not cattle waiting to be graded. If you are trying to get laid by a stranger, then you must be confused as to where you are and plentyoffish.com is not the site for you. No exceptions. You will be blocked.
2) Don’t Post a Cell Phone Mirror Self Portrait:
-Okay, your arms have a little muscle tone. We get it. However, you look like a friendless prick who has no one willing to photograph him let alone enough social skills to actually have decent pictures of himself taken in public, by other people. This rule especially applies to photos taken in dirty mirrors by people in scary environments.
3) Don’t Flaunt Your Financial Status or Belongings:
-It’s not acceptable to post pictures of something you own that you want to use to make people think you’re wealthy or super cool. Your Honda motorcycle or your 1992 BMW isn’t going to increase your chances of getting a date with any respectable human being, so don’t waste your time (or ours) uploading the photos. People with a lot of money are too busy making it or spending it to waste time trying to make people think they're rich.
4) Don’t Ask For Personal Information Initially:
-Do not ask for my number or what my plans for the evening are in the first few messages. It's none of your business and you will be ignored. Just because I have an online dating profile doesn’t mean I want to communicate with a bunch of strangers on the phone or that I’m desperately in need of people to hangout with. After time has passed, enough common interests have been expressed, and a friendly rapport has been established, THEN it’s Ok to ask for a date or my number.
5) Never Use Pet-Names With Someone You Haven't Met:
-Pet names are for people with whom you have a close personal relationship, or small animals and children. If you call me sugar, hunny, sweetie or anything along those lines in a message before I’ve even met you, we’re going to have a problem. I’m not a child or a puppy. Pet names are insulting. We aren’t at that level, so don’t pretend like we are. It's incredibly annoying.
Tips For the Ladies:
1)Half Naked Pictures Don't Get You Taken Seriously:
-People respect you at the same level that you respect yourself. If you post half naked, pouty lipped, X rated pics, then the buck stops there. You've deemed yourself a sexual object. You'll no longer be getting messages from sincere guys who’d like to get to know you, instead, you’ll be getting messages from horny guys that have some free time. Both possibilities usually exist simultaneously in most guys. It’s up to you which side they show, based on what side you choose to show of yourself.
2) Don’t Expect Success If You Message Him First:
-The same rule applies online as in the real world. A classy lady never chases or throws herself at a guy. No matter how hot or cool you think he is, it’s never a good idea for you to make the first move. As annoying and unfair as it is, men like to be the chaser.It's just how they evolved. Men enjoy the hunt. If you message him first, you take away all the fun of the chase and probably any chance of a lasting successful relationship, which doesn't mean that he isn't gong to try to sleep with you first, because he definitely will. You'll probably be considered an easy target.
3) Don’t Put Misleading Pictures on Your Profile:
-The old "bait and switch" trick never works. He's gonna notice. Don’t put pictures of yourself 4 years and 75 pounds ago on your profile and then be surprised when no one ever calls you after a first date. As shallow and unfair as it may be, posting inaccurate pictures of yourself is lying, and no one likes being lied to. Save yourself and him time and disappointment by posting pictures of yourself that show your beauty how it is today, not how it used to be.
4) Keep Your Broken Heart Sob Stories to Yourself:
-Everyone has their own baggage, no one needs yours. During the first stages of communication with a potential date, (i.e. on your profile),you should put your best foot forward. This is not the time or place to show how jaded you are or how mistreated you’ve been in the past. Don’t represent yourself as damaged goods, no one wants to deal with that. Bitter isn't a good look on anyone.
5) Don’t Say You Want a Man Who Isn’t After “One Thing”:
-Saying that you want to meet a man who wont try to sleep with you is stupid for a few reasons. First, any man you meet, especially in the dating world, probably wants to have sex with you. The only exception to this is if he’s gay or family. So, stop dreaming and realize that just because a man wants to sleep with you as soon as possible doesn’t mean you have to let him, and it doesn’t make him a bad guy. It’s not their fault. It’s in their DNA. So, just keep your legs closed until you're in an honest relationship. Problem solved. If all he wants is sex, and you don't give it to him right away, then he'll give up quickly and move on. They weed themselves out like that. It's magical.
I hope you've found these tips helpful. If you have broken any of these rules (or failed to use spell-check before clicking "save" or "send"), do yourself (and all the other single people experimenting with online dating) a huge favor and take all necessary corrective action immediately.
Thanks for taking the time to read this post. Feel free to get in contact with me with any questions, comments, or complaints that you may have about all of the stuff in this blog entry. And, like always, you’re welcome in advance.
Ten Rules for Being Human
Ten Rules for Being Human
by Cherie Carter-Scott
1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's yours to keep for the entire period.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, "life."
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately "work."
4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There's no part of life that doesn't contain its lessons. If you're alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
6. "There" is no better a place than "here." When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."
7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life's questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. You will forget all this.
by Cherie Carter-Scott
1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's yours to keep for the entire period.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, "life."
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately "work."
4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There's no part of life that doesn't contain its lessons. If you're alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
6. "There" is no better a place than "here." When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."
7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life's questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. You will forget all this.
Quotes From The Best Book Ever Written
So, 2nd only to maybe the Bible, many would agree that this is the best book ever written. Stephen Covey, guru to business, has a lot to say to us regular humans, too. He teaches us to break patterns of self-defeating behavior and to replace old patterns with a principle-centered approach to problem-solving. He also teaches us to get our lives in balance, putting wellness, family and relationships, and personal growth just as high on our list of priorities as urgent business concerns. I think that these things are the secret to intrinsic happiness.
Here are some quotes from my favorite book by him. Reading this book (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) literally changed my life. This man is a genius.
Here are some quotes from my favorite book by him. Reading this book (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) literally changed my life. This man is a genius.
Stephen R. Covey Quotes:
-“While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions.”
-“Between stimulus and response is our greatest power - the freedom to choose”
-“Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.”
-“Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually”
-"Accountability breeds response-ability. The ability to choose your own response."
-"One of the most important ways to manifest integrity is to be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, we build the trust of those who are present."
-"Leadership is communicating to people their worth and potential so clearly that they come to see it in themselves."
-"Between stimulus and response is our greatest power - the freedom to choose"
-"Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out."
(And I saved the best for last...)
-"People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that means there will be less for me. The more principle-centered we become, the more we develop an abundance mentality, the more we are genuinely happy for the successes, well-being, achievements, recognition, and good fortune of other people. We believe their success adds to... rather than detracts from... our lives."
My World View and Other Stuff I Want You to Know
"With what do I maintain a conscious contact, and from where do I seek comfort? Today I find comfort in knowing that I am living a healthy, good, clean life and that I am not harming others or myself. I can maintain a conscious contact by holding love close to my heart. I seek to do the right thing for the RIGHT reason.”
Then I started thinking about what I think is right and what I do believe in. Here's some random musings that I came up with. So, in no particular order:
-I don’t believe in giving someone a gift that they don’t deserve. It takes away from the value of the gift, thus wasting it.
-I have an Autistic twin brother named Michael who I respect and admire. His outlook on life and his own personal future could inspire many. He’s on the “high-functioning” end of the Autistic Spectrum. I think that is the hardest type of disorder to have because he realizes that he’s different and he always will be, yet he doesn’t let that stop him from having dreams and knowing what he is good at.
-I don't believe in girls making the first move, at all. I think that it would be nice if it didn’t matter who initiated contact between a man and a woman, but evolution says that just can’t be so.
-After trying to figure out what I want right now in my life, I FINALLY came to the conclusion recently that I don't know yet what I'm looking for. I probably won't know exactly what I want until I actually find it. Until then, everyday is a lesson and everyday I come closer to finding out what's best for me.
-I'm very opinionated but open-mindedness is something I strive for. If you don’t have respect for the opinions of other people, then you don’t have respect for others and you don’t deserve respect yourself. There's usually more than one right way and we can't learn from each other unless we're willing to listen.
-I find myself being most attracted to nerdy-ish smart guys who I feel that I can learn something from, as long as I feel that they respect my intelligence as well and they aren't too ego-centered, which is different than having a high self-esteem. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a high self-esteem as long as you don't also have a superiority complex and/or a sense of entitlement.
-I think I'm really smart, and I feel very fortunate because of that. That doesn't mean I'm smarter than anyone else, it just means that I really appreciate my own unique type of intelligence. I don't think that intelligence is as quantifiable as many people believe it is.
-I look for the best in people and there isn't anyone I dislike, everyone has a story worth hearing. This outlook makes life and relationships tons easier in every way.
-I believe that optimism is a choice not a condition, and it's usually the best one. You attract more bees with honey. :)
-It's never Ok to yell at someone unless their life is in danger. Mature people with self-controll never have to yell to make a point.
-I'm not better than you, and you're not better than me. You can't quantify the worth of a person, no matter how much you think you can and no matter how much better it makes you feel about yourself. We're all just un-perfect humans with the same cells and the same organs trying to survive in the best way that we know how.
-No one is "stupid", there are just different types of intelligence. You may not know how to read, but I’m sure that there are things in life you’ve mastered that I may never be able to fully understand. We're all smart in different ways, and we rely on eachother based on our individual strong suites.
-Selfish people who are incapable of true empathy are the only people that I think warrant pity.
-I don’t believe in excuses. It’s human nature to try to use them, but every time you do you’re doing yourself a disservice. If you do something wrong and you blame it on something/someone besides yourself, you’re taking away your power to fix it and you're missing an opportunity to better yourself.
-I think that the older you get the more you realize how dumb it is to lie. Atleast that's been my experience. Now, I try to go out of my way to tell the truth all of the time. I’m not saying that I never lie, but I believe in the power of telling the truth. People are smart and they usually know when they’re being lied to. Respect them and respect yourself by telling the truth. No one expects you to be perfect all of the time. The truth really does set you free, as corny and cliche as that statement may be.
-“Pain will occur, but suffering is a choice.” This is true, but a lot of people sell themselves short when it comes their belief in their ability to controll their emotions and rationally think before they act. Being able to think and not act exclusively on our emotions is one of the things that separates humans from animals. That's why I speak out against violence, because as humans we're suposed to have evolved past that.
-No matter how bad things seem today, it could always be a lot worse. No matter how bad things are going, it’s probably going to get better, and it’s probably going to get better soon. When times get tough, force yourself to look at the bigger picture and find something to be happy about.
-I believe in the power of positive thinking. When I’m at work and my boss is pushing my buttons and making me angry, I consciously control my thoughts and I don’t allow myself to get mad or take anything personally. I remind myself that she’s very stressed out incapable of separating her emotions from her actions. Negative thoughts about her will only be toxic to my prosperity in the long run, no matter how warranted they may be.
- Don't say bad things about people when they're aren't there. It's cowardly, they're going to find out, and everyone within ear-shot will lose trust and respect for you. Bite your tongue when you want to say something bad about someone, especially at work.
-Today I learned that “Addiction is a journey away from the truth and into emotional blindness.”, “Dependency of any kind unavoidably destroys relationships and inhibits them from being healthy."
-“We notice intimacy, we don’t produce it. Love is not a happening, it is a process.”
-“There is no recovery without transformation, there is no transformation without recovery.”
Ramblings...
(Warning: I think I'm funny)
This post is more of a rant than anything else. Here are 4 of the things that have been on my mind lately that I feel like I need to share
1) Sonic for SEGA Genesis is my favorite game, ever. I just bought it in the App. Store. I LOVE Apple! However, and take this as you may, the new iPad is just a giant iPod Touch you can buy a data plan for from Apple’s bed mate AT&T. Steve Jobs is pretending like it’s “revolutionary”. You aren’t fooling me, Steve.
2) Secondly for today, I finally got a new case for my glasses. I got to campus today and went to put them on when I realized that I’d forgotten to actually put the glasses in the case. They’re glasses, they should automatically know where they belong and just put themselves there. I was so disappointed when I realized that they had not done so.
3) I just heard a girl in the hall say “Obama didn’t say don’t curse, he said don’t curse others.” She said it like it was one of the Ten Commandments or something. I don’t know about you, but I’m totally cool with Obama being the new Jesus. Doesn’t bother me one bit. (I’m just kidding, kinda.)
4) Quick question, why are men obsessed with having huge TVs? I think that it’s obvious that this is just another way for them to compensate for lack of size in “other places”. Just an observation. (Maybe this will get them to stop making fun of my sad excuse for a TV every time they come into my apartment. ☺)
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