Unrequited love and the Science of wanting what you can't have.

Here are some exerts from various articles that I found on this topic that I think answer this question pretty damn well....

"It is instinctive to hunt for something better, it's a drive that has kept us humans alive and elevated among other animal species since the early days of mankind. It is this internal drive which most of us have that equates to wanting what we cannot have. It's almost as if we have to fool our urges into thinking that we must enjoy what we do have but sometimes self deceit is just not enough."

"We want what we can't have, simply because we can't have it, not because it's better. Eventually we get what we want (we date the man), things don't work out, and we realize that what we had to begin with was better than what we saw on the other side of the fence."

And something very interesting about unrequited love from a book by an expert on the subject that I just couldn't stop reading the other day during my research on the topic.... read it a few times because the jargon makes it a little hard to understand, the point it is making is super awesome and worth the extra effort. lol Disreguard my bold text. That's just for me because it's my favorite part. hehehehe

"Unreciprocated romantic attraction was explored by comparing narrative accounts. Unrequited love emerged as a bilaterally distressing experience marked by mutual incomprehension and emotional interdependence. Would-be lovers looked back with both positive and intensely negative emotions, whereas rejectors were more uniformly negative in their accounts. Unlike rejectors, would-be lovers believed that the attraction had been mutual, that they had been led on, and that the rejection had never been communicated definitely. Rejectors depicted themselves as morally innocent but still felt guilty about hurting someone; many rejectors depicted the would-be lover's persistent efforts as intrusive and annoying. Rejectors constructed accounts to reduce guilt, whereas disappointed lovers constructed them to rebuild self-esteem. Rejectors saw would-be lovers as self-deceptive and unreasonable; would-be lovers saw rejectors as inconsistent and mysterious. "

That's all for now. :-)